Normativity.

Were at a conference last day that was about equality. How we all can get more equal in life, and also over the sexualities, genders, age, religion and so on. Very interesting when in between the sets while talking to some of the participants about being queer in todays society. Just for a start that queer was a new expression for them. It all started with a scene that showed a man and a woman having a child, and the fathers concern before the actual birth. He wanted to be involved and his wife said of course. And then, at the hospital, there was this nurse who just ignored him in one way or an other. That just got me upset, to start with. But after the scene I talked to the actors and then they asked me if I had any kids, and I said: No, and I never will. Then one of the actors at once thought that I was gay! Not that I just wasn't up to be a father or had any medical conditions or so. No, he just thought I was gay... That was kind of wierd to hear, but I guess we all have our way of thinking, and thank God for that! Then I just had to explain that I was queer, and of course the question came up: What do you mean by "Queer"? I eplained to them that I didn't want to put a title on my sexuality, that I fall in love with a personality rather then the sex. That is just something that I don't care about. And then they said that I ment I was bisexual, but no! Bisexuality is still a way to put a title on things, that you are both in to sex with the same and opposite gender as your self. That you might just fall in love with girls but can have sex with men. They thought about it for a while and it seemed that they understood what I ment. But to live as a HBTQ-person in todays society is still hard. We still fight against a lot of normativites. People are ment to be heterosexual. That's just the way life is... Why?! I am who I am and I am darn proud of my self! I will never care if people think that I am weird! I want to be weird! That's who I am. Never ever try to be some one else just because they say so.