To love without being loved.

If a guy walks up to a girl and ask her out to a date, no one will rise their eyebrows. That is just common in daily life.
If a girl walks up to a guy and asks him out on a date, it is still the same.

If a girl walks up to a girl and ask her out on a date, maybe a few will rise their eyebrows, because it is not that common, but still, girls can be very good friends, so it is still okay.

But if a guy walks up to an other guy and asks him out on a date, a lot of people will look at them with disgust, fear, think they are weird and so on. Because that is still not okay, unless you are at a gay bar or so.

Just bare in mind that for those guys and girls who walks up to a person of the same sex there is a tremendous courage within them for taking that step. We never know if the guy or girl we walk up to is straight or gay. We don't know if we would be laughed at, spit at or even beaten down. Unless we are at a gay bar....

I wrote on my facebook a few weeks ago: Why is it that all the cute guys are either straight, taken or live too far away...?
One of the replies were: I think the opposite, why is all the good looking men gay...?

My biggest issue here is that I tend to fall in love with those who are straight or unavailable. I fall in love with those who people definitely will rise their eyebrows at. That is the hardest thing about love...

I am deeply in love with a guy that I have loved for years now. And I have always known that he doesn't love me in that way, but we have had an understanding for each other. He has let me loved him and I have loved him in a way that hasn't shown.

Now he has shown more an more that he doesn't want me to love him anymore. Our understanding is over. The most heartbreaking thing ever, because I can't even show how sad I am over loosing him. That's how it is to love some one that you know never will love you back.

To change an attitude!

Was preforming at a school this week, ford kids aged 6-10, together with a friend. We have our group called "Flamma & Fjolla" (The Flame & The Queer) and preforme with fire, dance and jokes. My character, The Queer, always wears a Pride-hat, a skirt and make-up, and for this year also a wig, since we started the whole show by dancing to Loreen's "Euphoria" (the best song ever in Eurovision Song Contest). While dressing up we worked a lot with the make-up to make The Queer look as good as possible without without making too much out if it. Because The Queer's philosphy is to be whom ever you are and dress up how ever you want to. Just as long as you are comfortable with your self and can stand up for what you are doing. He is kind of sissy acting, but not in a bad way. He just likes to have fun! And we never tells that he is gay, but the kids nows it anyway, I guess, since he is dancing and says he is from the land of fabulous, wearing lipstick, make-up and a cute turquoise dance-skirt. And in the beginning I was wearing this wig, that made me look pretty good by the way, and the funny thing was when we entered the school yard with all the kids running around and we were fully dressed and in make-up, the first question from almost all the kids were: Who is SHE?, pointing at me. And I didn't wear any fake boobs more special attributes then just make-up, the wig and the little skirt. All ready there we had reached the effect we wanted, to neutralize the gender and sexuality. Then, in the dance, The Queer does such a "bad" preformance that The Flame takes of his wig, and all of a sudden he puts on a pride-hat! Just to show that he is queer and that the colours stands for pride, happiness and fun! The kids just loved the show, as usual, and loves The Flame & The Queer. Not to mention the teachers at the school. Even some parents enjoyed what we were doing and none didn't mind that we have that theme on the show! For me and my friend, who both are a part of the HBTQ-society, it is important that we can learn the kids that there is nothing wring with being yourself, as long as you stand up for whom you are and that you don't preach about it. They need to build their own opinion, but we think that we are able to change their attitude a little just by being our self on stage, and show them that there is nothing wrong for a guy to wear make-up and/or a wig, if he wants to. We all have a responsebility towards our kids and youths to make sure that they belive in them self and teach them about rights and wrongs. And I know that not everybody agrees with me that teaching kids that homosexuality is right, is a good thing, because who knows what ideas they might get from that! They might become gay them self! Well, let them! What's the big deal? As long as they are happy and proud of whom they are, just as The Flame & The Queer! And as long as we are porud of them! The even asked when they will meet us again... :)

Right or wrong?

Sizzla will play at Slakthuset... The world is in turmoil and rightly so! For he has delivered its hugely negative about gay people.

Today's question on the QX is: Can an artist sing about anything?

I replied, Yes!
Clearly an artist can sing just about anything, then it's up to us who listen to judge the artist according to preference of taste.
Sizzla sings about what he wants and thinks. And we judge him because we think it's wrong. What suffers most of his views are actually Sizzla!

Good that we stand up for our rights, but do not forget that everyone has the right to be heard, then it's up to them to actually stand still for the pressure when the tsunami wave of critics arrives.